Whose Bad Day Is This // Own Your Own State

There’s a move some people make that took me years to name precisely. They have a bad day, or a bad season. Something at work, something in their own life — nothing to do with you. And instead of carrying it, sitting with it, or owning it, they find a surface to discharge it on. … Read more

Most Fights Aren’t About What Happened.

A couple of years back, I clipped a stranger with my bag once. An accident — I lifted it, it swung wider than I’d judged, and it caught the woman behind me, out of my blindspot. It’s my fault, and I should have checked before lifting my bag (though allow me to add also…not sure … Read more

Dumb Ways to Die (The Versions Nobody Sings About)

Last week my son David — nine years old — started playing “Dumb Ways to Die” in this the show he’s watching. I knew it instantly. That song is from 2012 — an Australian train company made it to stop people walking in front of trains. I’d half-forgotten it existed. Fourteen years later it’s colonising … Read more

The Inheritance That Isn’t (Just) Money

Nobody ever sat me down and taught me money. I had front row sits since I was 8 years old, money fights after money fights, and it broke my heart how two loving people who werent equipped with decent regulatory functions combined with financial illiteracy kept fighting each other, not realizing it’s TWO of them … Read more