What Financial Freedom Actually Costs

It’s firstly maths, followed by mindset. Or mindset first, then maths. In this essay, I focus first on the maths/arithmetic part of it. Most people treat financial freedom like a feeling they’re waiting to arrive — a someday, a vibe, a number so large it stays abstract. It isn’t a feeling. It’s one equation, and … Read more

Everything I Have Comes From Two Boring Decisions.

Almost everything you have today — your health, your money, your business, the shape of your marriage and life — traces back to a surprisingly small number of decisions. Two or three, often. The rest was downstream. Most people never do that trace. They can’t tell you which of their thousand moves actually mattered and … Read more

Whose Bad Day Is This // Own Your Own State

There’s a move some people make that took me years to name precisely. They have a bad day, or a bad season. Something at work, something in their own life — nothing to do with you. And instead of carrying it, sitting with it, or owning it, they find a surface to discharge it on. … Read more

Real Intense Feeling Can Be Dead Wrong

There’s a particular kind of person I’ve spent real time around, and the pattern is always the same: the harder they feel something, the more certain they become they’re right. The intensity alone is the proof, to them…JUST BECAUSE they feel it strongly — therefore to them, it’s real and true, therefore you owe them, … Read more

Most Fights Aren’t About What Happened.

A couple of years back, I clipped a stranger with my bag once. An accident — I lifted it, it swung wider than I’d judged, and it caught the woman behind me, out of my blindspot. It’s my fault, and I should have checked before lifting my bag (though allow me to add also…not sure … Read more

Dumb Ways to Die (The Versions Nobody Sings About)

Last week my son David — nine years old — started playing “Dumb Ways to Die” in this the show he’s watching. I knew it instantly. That song is from 2012 — an Australian train company made it to stop people walking in front of trains. I’d half-forgotten it existed. Fourteen years later it’s colonising … Read more