I want you to build and live a life that you love. And become a person that you’re proud to be.
Nice to meet you! I’m Nigel.
I bought this domain name in 2009 to share what I’ve learned in my life, success, pains and passive income journey to make each area of my life as masterful and successful as I can. Originally, it was for myself, to document my journey of
- improving myself,
- building a good life and
- mastering good success
When I became a dad in 2015, and through the passage of time and experiencing ups and downs, running and growing businesses and taking more leadership roles and mentoring the ones under my charge, I started to change. Things that were important to me then were no longer as important to me now.
I became more and more paternal and fatherly in an interesting weird way.
It’s become so normal and entrenched with me that I’ve normalized and fully embraced it such that I joked with the people whom I serve and work with, that I have pseudo-father tendencies. Which is true – I tend to be more fatherly, more protective and want the best for all the people I work with, serve and care about.
I would expect more of my people as well, just like a father too.
And funnily, that’s how I AM comfortable with speaking and writing my voice, which I’m gonna call “dadspeak” (which is my 2nd favorite part of the blog).
To write it for you and to see that it helps you build the life and character that you love. I try my best to think and write about important matters that needs to be spoken about more often that needs to be brought up.
Table Of Contents
- 1 Who do I write for?
- 2 Three reasons why I write these and like this:
Who do I write for?
- my kids
- kids who may not have parents who are present or alive anymore
- individuals whose parents don’t speak about such stuff
- parents who find it difficult to speak to their kids about such matters
- for you, my readers
I write this in case of when I’m gone, they may want to read what and how I think how this world works with both good things and bad things interacting like a massive piece of puzzle. For everyone else, I am more than happy to be called your internet pseudo-dad. I write this to you as well with my wish to guide and speak to you to build and live a better life.
So on this site, I openly and honestly share with you what’s worked for me (and what hasn’t worked) to make me successful in my own life, providing you with the best concepts, principles, and strategies for life mastery in my experience and perspective.
I realize that God has given me a big heart to love a lot, and to have a heart for many people and things.
It’s also sometimes interesting where I get so emotional where my eyes will well up with tears when I hear wonderful stories of people overcoming shit and unfairness and challenges.
Three reasons why I write these and like this:
First, to answer questions like “Dad, what should I do? What’s right and what’s wrong?”
- What’s good or bad?
- What should I do?
- Where should I go?
- And many more
Sometimes things seem to be so…open-ended, for the lack of a better word.
Like, anything can happen.
Yeah that’s generally the case, but we need to discuss the framework of
- what makes a good life
- what makes a good person
- what makes a good decision
- etc etc
The reason being is because sometimes the world is so noisy, that it seems that the loudest, noisiest and sexiest person wins…really? Do you think that the most charismatic or personality person will win?
Perhaps, in the short term.
But character, especially good character, stands out magnificently. A sexy or loud asshole will also stand out of course, in a magnificent way too I guess.
The question is, what would you like to be known for?
Matthew 5:14-16 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
I still see the world is a fascinating place, and our lives as an adventure in
- discovering ourselves, our values, our strengths, our weaknesses
- discovering the pain and beauty of the world
- discovering the awesomeness of God and all His creation
When I was born, I was taken care of by my parents and family. For this, I am eternally grateful – no one physically in this world can replace the love my parents had for me. And I wish the same of you.
If you hadn’t have or had good parents (and not because you understand wrongly, but because they seem to be true assholes), then at least, give thanks for them for giving you life. As I wrote earlier, I will be more than happy to be your pseudo-internet father. I may not have met you before, but I care for you and I wish the best for you.
This is just the beginning of your best adventures of your life – just see.
Just being alive, being able to breathe air into your lungs, being able to see with your eyes, hear with your ears, move and touch with your hands and feet, to be able to stand, walk, dress and move about – if you can do these well, you’re off to a good start.
It’s what you do from here, this starting point on, that makes all the difference.
Second, to discuss and bring to light difficult, open-ended and important topics
That needs to be brought up and discussed regularly by every parent, every individual today. Not just once, but as a regular conversation point, as these are the “boring but important stuff”.
Kinda like “the bird and bees” sort of conversations I guess.
To improve your life, it’s generally a 3-step process:
- foundational / fundamental values that you (want) to believe in and stand for
- deciding / making decisions on how to manage certain situations when you come across it or to set your habits and routines
- process of the doing based on the decision that you made which is based on the foundational values as mentioned above
I try to cover these 3 processes throughout nigelchua.com.
Once you know what you know and know where you want to go and what you want to stand for, it makes it easy for you to decide
- when you want to achieve a certain something in life
- when you’re lost or confused – come here to get some insight or focus or ask me a question
- when shit happens (and we know shit will happen at some point…sometimes it’s a shitstorm) – but hang on tight and ride through it
And that’s what this me and my blog here is about – to cover the important stuff that we need to talk about more in society.
These are my observations and life lessons which I learn over the course of my life, and I will refine them as I go along and experience more. Read whichever suits you in this season of your life, and apply.
Third: I want you to know that I care for you and I believe in you.
It’s weird, as I type this, I’m getting emotional and the nice kind of fuzzy feeling.
It’s because I really care for you and I want the best for you. I may not know you in person (yet) but I care for you and I wish the best for you.
Do not give up, as it’s just the beginning of a wonderful adventure and journey in life. I’m rooting for you. I’m with you, God too is with you every step of the way.
Remember, growth and progress takes consistent effort and attention, over a period of time.
Everyone and anyone you know who is successful today and yesterday did not becomes successful by dabbling. Think of successful people such as Tony Robbins, Ray Dalio, Bruce Lee, the famous Beatles, Warren Buffett.
Every. Single. Success. Story. Is. The. Same.
They all took time to hone and refine their craft mastery.
Don’t underestimate what, where and who you’d turn out to be after 3, 5, 10+ years.
Remember, the most lasting legends and legacies all take time to master themselves and their art and contribution – this means that you need to put in the consistent work in to get to where and who you want to become.
Go. For. It.
And then tell me bout your adventures, your ups and downs – I want to hear all about it. I’m just a message or email away.
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