Build Business, Wealth & Family. By Design.
The values, character, and culture you actually live by — and hand down. Breaking the bad scripts you inherited and deliberately building better ones, so your kids start from a stronger place than you did. Less about what’s in the will, more about what you stand for. From bad-cycle-breaker to good-cycle-starter.
Last week my son David — nine years old — started playing “Dumb Ways to Die” in this the show he’s watching. I knew it instantly. That song is from 2012 — an Australian train company made it to stop people walking in front of trains. I’d half-forgotten it existed. Fourteen years later it’s colonising … Read more
In 2019 I wrote a post about how to stop complaining. I just reread it, and the strangest thing in it is one word I used without noticing where I’d taken it from. I wrote that repeated negative thoughts become “strongholds” in your mind. That’s not a self-help word. It’s Paul’s word — and I … Read more
On a Friday night in March 2018, my wife and I were in a cab heading home from IKEA — a date night, because that’s the kind of exciting couple we are kakakakaka — and the driver started talking business. Not small talk. Advice. Unprompted, structured, and delivered with the confidence of a man who … Read more
My first salary as a physiotherapist at Changi General Hospital was $1,700 a month before CPF. After confirmation it went up to $2,050. If I had stayed on that path — salaried, public, dependable — I would not be earning more than $6,000 today, two decades in. I want to be careful how I say … Read more
Nobody ever sat me down and taught me money. I had front row sits since I was 8 years old, money fights after money fights, and it broke my heart how two loving people who werent equipped with decent regulatory functions combined with financial illiteracy kept fighting each other, not realizing it’s TWO of them … Read more
Your parents were first-time humans too — that’s the grace. What you do with the hand they dealt you is on you now — that’s the responsibility. When we were kids, our parents seem like gods to us. They know everything, they have every answer, they never fail. Then you grow up, and somewhere along … Read more
The first reason is spiritual — I’m a Christian before I’m anything else. The rest is the bill coming due in this world. Let me start where this actually starts for me — not where it’s easiest to defend in a meeting. I’m a Christian before I’m anything else, so the bedrock reason I don’t … Read more
(Previously titled “11th Year Without Dad: Why I Chose a Different Path”) It’s been eleven years since my dad passed away. Honestly, it still hits me. Some years more than others. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like grief — it feels like he just went away on a long holiday and I’ll see him again … Read more