Whose Bad Day Is This // Own Your Own State

There’s a move some people make that took me years to name precisely. They have a bad day, or a bad season. Something at work, something in their own life — nothing to do with you. And instead of carrying it, sitting with it, or owning it, they find a surface to discharge it on. … Read more

Real Intense Feeling Can Be Dead Wrong

There’s a particular kind of person I’ve spent real time around, and the pattern is always the same: the harder they feel something, the more certain they become they’re right. The intensity alone is the proof, to them…JUST BECAUSE they feel it strongly — therefore to them, it’s real and true, therefore you owe them, … Read more

Stop Billing Your Parents – They’re First Time Humans Too.

Your parents were first-time humans too — that’s the grace. What you do with the hand they dealt you is on you now — that’s the responsibility. When we were kids, our parents seem like gods to us. They know everything, they have every answer, they never fail. Then you grow up, and somewhere along … Read more