Why I Don’t Lie (Part 3)
Because lies destroy trust — and trust is the foundation of relationship and love
In Part 1, I shared how lying steals your peace.
In Part 2, I shared how lying is spiritually wrong, aligning us with satan and the forces of hell instead of Christ, who has died to redeem us and set us free.
But there’s another reason I don’t lie: lies destroy trust.
Trust is very fragile.
It takes years to build, and only moments to break.
When you lie to someone—your spouse, your children, your friends, your coworkers—you don’t just break a rule. You break the invisible bridge that allows love to flow. The moment trust dies, intimacy dies with it.
Think about it: if my children discover I’ve lied to them, why should they believe me when I say, “I love you,” or “God will provide,” or “Follow me as I follow Christ”? One lie poisons every truth that comes after.
This is why Scripture warns us so strongly:
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” (Ephesians 4:25)
A family, a marriage, a church, even a business—none of it can survive without truth.
Lies causes hurt, distrust, breakdowns of relationships from the inside. But truth—even when hard—builds bonds that last through storms.
I don’t lie because I want my wife to trust my words.
I want my children to grow up believing what I say.
I want my team to know my yes is yes and my no is no (Matthew 5:37).
At the end of my life, when people look back, I don’t want them to say, “He was clever, he knew how to cover his tracks.”
I want them to say,
“He was honest. We could trust him. His words matched his life.”
Lies destroy trust but truth? Truth strengthens it.
And trust is the soil where love grows.
That’s why I don’t lie.