Prioritize Doing Right And Good

Prioritizing doing right and good is always right and good, no matter how difficult or unpopular it is.

And the upside is right and good leads to more right and good later (boomerang effect) which tends to grow rather than tear/break-down.

What’s the point of doing things the wrong way?

Or choosing the easy path but not good path?

There is no merits in doing that at all.

Doing right and good is the easiest and sustainable approach to life and success.

You Define Yourself, No One Else

You know yourself best.

Which both a pro and a con…because on one hand, you can motivate and lead yourself the best. At the same time, you also can demotivate and choose not to achieve anything.

It’s freewill after all, baby.

You define you yourself, no one else.

You know what drives you, what makes you happy and what makes you sad. You can refer or ask people like your parents, check in with the bible, or your friends and family, but in the end, you need to define yourself.

This is the first step to true happiness, is when you know yourself. When you know what makes you happy, then you know how to build your life around things that matters most to you.

Get Up And Do Something Meaningful

Life is short…but long enough when it’s well lived and not wasted on petty and mundane stuff.

Get up and do something meaningful, don’t waste your time and life tolerating and just going through the motion.

The thing with “doing” something meaningful is that you need to evaluate and think for yourself, and determine what is meaningful or not to you – and everyone is different.

That’s why I often tell people that you can look left and right to see what others are doing, but most importantly is that you need to immerse, try, evaluate and determine what makes you tick.

Because you are you, and what makes you happy will be different from what makes others happy.

Of course, don’t hurt, harm, lie or manipulate others as you do so.

Don’t Just Chase Money. Instead, Chase Your Dreams

Don’t just chase money, instead, chase your dreams, purpose and mission.

Money itself it good, dont get me wrong, and can be so useful…but do bear in mind:

What’s life on your terms? ie What makes YOU happy?

What I’m saying is that you’ve got to understand and know yourself.

Everyone is wired very differently.

If what makes you happy is to earn $50K/year and spend time with loved ones and/or hobbies, then do that. No point trying to earn $500K and killing your health, sanity and relationships.

Conversely, there are some people out there who can’t breathe if they dont start their own business and grow it to high six or seven or more figures, and it kills them if they dont do it. And funnier is that they dont feel tired doing this. Cos they’re wired that way.

Can one change one’s wiring?

To me, it’s a yes and no thing.

Sometimes, it’s based on unpolished gems and with some polishing and luck, one can grow into larger dreams and goals.

Some just prefer not to.

When we chase after our dreams, purpose and mission, what’s funny is that we possibly and potentially may earn more than we want to, as composed to people who just chase money for the sake of chasing money.

Work Is Your Best Friend

Let me expand that: Consistent hard work is your best friend.

It can take you as high as you want, or as far as you want, but everything requires work and maintenance efforts/work to succeed and stay successful.

Success is a journey and we keep growing and going higher and higher, be it in our businesses, money, relationships, health – everything needs work.

So for us to succeed, we need to do the work.

Consistently.

Doing The Right Thing…Is Always The Right Thing

Doing the right thing…is always the right and good thing to do.

It’s practical, straightforward, it’s good and sustainable.

I’ve never understood why people cheat, lie, scam or do wrong stuff – it’s so much easier and better to just do good and the right thing. Not rocket science.

It’s just so much easier and direct to just tell the truth and be honest.

Stop Worrying About The Opinion Of Others

There is an insecurity and fear of “that you cannot let others say something bad or negative about you/me”

I’ve seen this repeatedly done and mentioned, like a mantra from children to adults to employees and even people in authority. It’s like a broken record, where so many people are afraid of judgement by others, especially negative ones.

So I’d like to talk about this.

Firstly you must know that many people are reactive, fearful and insecure rather than being loving, kind and generous. This itself will give you insight that not all data matters.

EVEN if they’re said by your parents or loved ones.

Secondly, it doesn’t really matter because in the end, you have to own your own life. You cant live your life based on what others tell you to do. That by itself is already a sure way to be unhappy, because you leave your happiness in the words, whims and fancies of others. Which many are idiots.

Thirdly, negative thoughts are much more sticky compared to good ones – a single negative thought can be 20X more sticky in your head and heart. An example is that if you have 10 people who love you but 1 who totally hates you – you may find that the one that hates you tends to be in your heart more often.

Lastly, we need to recognize and be aware that we’re good at somethings and not good at others. Focus on honing your strengths rather than patching or improving your weaknesses. If possible do both, but if you have to choose, focus on improving your strength. The real question is how do we deal with this?

I mainly take a functional operator point of view, which I use a filter, with these guiding questions:

  1. Is this true?
  2. Is this helpful or useful?
  3. Is this kind?
  4. Is this my priority?

Abundance And More Than Enough

There is abundance everywhere.

Abundance means to have more than enough money, time, love, generosity and more – of course there’s work involved, you cant have abundance without work…and once you truly get it, you’d realize the reason why abundance is everywhere is because it is about value creation that leads to wealth generation.

And it can happen wherever there is a need or demand – that’s it generally. Of course there’s more nuances, including doing the work, but that’s it from a very broad perspective.

Dont be fooled by people and companies who’s trying to instill fear in your so that you can work for them and do their bidding.

2X Immigration Leads To Practicality And Success

Immigration isn’t a new concept to me, and you know what, I am immensely grateful for the multiple immigration moves that we did in our lives.

Location wise, I had two large immigration movement from Seremban (Negeri Sembilan) to Johor (Uncle place for a few weeks) and then once more to Taman Tasik where we rented our own space and then to Permas Jaya when my dad could afford his own space. This itself is four movements.

Later I migrated to Singapore when I was 20, and from there, make large but calculated moves from employee to agency to single clinic to multi-clinic chan, and in the process get played out by unscrupulous landlords and business owners who just played the short game (that’s why many of them fail to grow big or fail to go public/IPO or others – it’s because they cut corners).

These immigration and other big moves are quite helpful to form my ability to survive and thrive amidst change, to look forward and anticipate good and important changes, and also, to move away from projects and people that are time-wasters and just out to cheat/play in the short term.

Be Damn Good or Be Mediocre

There two (2) ways to live life generally:

  1. Be damn good at what you do
  2. Be mediocre and tear everyone/everything else down so you look good

Of course, the best approach is to be damn good at what you do, but it’s hard work – you have to keep leveling up, keep pressing on forward and doing the right and good things and you may be victim to sociopaths who will happily play you and throw you under the bus for their profit or merriment.

Yet, still choose love and choose good success.

At the end of our lives, we will have to account – would you want to account for a good life or a bad life?

To me, it’s quite straightforward – do the right and good things, and everything will fall into place, despite challenges, pains and setbacks.