A common but elusive pursuit that happens to most of society is this “Pursuit Of Happiness” – there are scores of books, blogs and even movies about it, and unfortunately most of the time, the story revolves around resilience ie bearing hardship for a while, and then in the end, you achieve something and then you get happy.
Table Of Contents
- 0.1 Nope, That’s Not The Case To Become Happier.
- 0.2 Why Buying/Doing Stuff Doesn’t Make You Happy For Long
- 0.3 Removing Negatives
- 0.4 Why Removing Negatives Will Make You Happier Than Buying/Adding Stuff
- 0.5 Whatever Your Approach Is, Just Start. And Amaze Yourself In One Year’s Time.
- 0.6 Related Posts
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Nope, That’s Not The Case To Become Happier.
That’s media trying to sell you the idea that sacrificing to achieve is the way to get happier. And in the same token, that’s why there are many people who sacrifice time, family, health, relationships, to achieve something, and when they get there, they realize they’re not happy.
Yes, they may have some sense of achievement for a while, but the joy and happiness do not last. It’s not a new concept, and I’m fairly certain that you had heard of and possibly even met people like that.
The problem is because we’re trying to “achieve (add) stuff that makes us happier”…when the real focus is that we need to “remove stuff that is negative that is making us unhappy.”
Why Buying/Doing Stuff Doesn’t Make You Happy For Long
The reason why people are still unhappy though they keep buying stuff because the act of buying give a short and false sense of achievement, but it has a short term effect.
Think of that new phone that you just bought. Or car. Or book – whatever.
You may be intrigued with it for a while, spend a lot of time researching, reviewing and then finally buying it, and then spend the next couple of days to weeks fawning over it and talking about it.
And then what?
After the initial novelty and excitement – it wears off, and then ho hum. The excitement goes away (if it does stay for long term and it’s used regularly, great! It’s a good buy then)
And what most people do after that…is to repeat the cycle, thinking that “the next thing is the answer.”
Sadly, most of the time, it doesn’t work that way. A smarter, and one that brings about longer periods of contentment and satisfaction and happiness is:
Negatives behave and are like
- anchors that weigh you down, slowing or limiting your movement
- wounds that don’t heal and keeps bleeding or worse, getting infected etc
Basically negatives can be anything negative such as toxic relationships, toxic behaviors (financial debt, food, substance, coffeee, cigarette addictions etc) that serve to make you tired, demotivated and low energy etc – I’m not a woo-woo guru/coach, but that’s how I think and feel negatives impact me.
Removing just one negative will give you an immediate noticeable benefit that only serves you more and more as you go along; and even if you forget about it, it’d keep adding positively to your life (unless you jokingly decide to take on another bad habit that makes it bad again.
My Favorite Example:
You have a toothache: you can watch a movie, buy a phone, hang out with someone, have sex – whatever – the throbbing toothache will remind you all through the day…and the only relief you’d get is only when you get it fixed with a dentist. Nothing else works. Just see a fucking dentist already and get it done and over with.
Some Other Examples:
- You realized that you’d been over-subscribing to a recurring service eg telco, cable, magazine and newspaper that collectively is about $200/month, and you decided to normalize the subscription and save the extra $200 per month. All of a sudden, you have $2400 per year, extra, without doing extra anything. Maybe you decide to invest this amount to get a 5% return, which is about $120 per year. 10 years time, you’d have $31,696.29
- You have been tolerating a very negative, reactive and toxic superior who just makes you cringe inside and outside, and you’ve been tolerating it for a couple of years. By now, you’d be looking for solutions: a new job, an online business, or enough dividends to leave this toxicity. And when you do, imagine the relief and freedom.
- You had been eating junk food, feeling tired and hadn’t been exercising for weeks (if not months or years) and you’re sick of it. You finally decide to do something about it, but all you can muster is improve one meal a day and exercise just 1-2 times per week at slow walk. You’d be amazed at how much better you’d feel.
And the examples go on and on, just by removing one negative in your life, one at a time.
Why Removing Negatives Will Make You Happier Than Buying/Adding Stuff
It’s a very simplistic reason: because the effects have longer term effects and outcomes. Let’s use some examples:
- If you’re already getting dividends from your income stock investments (removing fear of investing and lack of future income)
- If you’ve created an online business that is making you some or a lot of money every month (removing fear of failure and lack of future income)
- If you’re already working from home (removing annoyance like commute, toxic bosses/colleagues)
- If you’ve started running every day (or some fixed days per week) (removing low energy)
You know how it feels. And the thing is, it’s gonna be there tomorrow. And the day after. And the day after that – there’s a sense of surety, achievement, milestone, and it’s a positive milestone that will keep propelling you forward.
How many negative stuff is holding you back right now? List them down, and then prioritize from the easiest to the most difficult…and depending on your personality, I recommend you nail the hardest one first (80/20 rule) – once you get that out of the way, all the smaller ones are just much easier to do.
…or you can “work your way up” by working on the smaller ones first.
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