How Has 2020 Changed You And Your Ideas And Hopes And Dreams?

Today’s the 30th of December 2020…2020 is coming to an end in 1+ day’s time.

Before my final post on 2020 review, I’d like to ask this question:

How Has 2020 Changed You And Your Ideas And Hopes And Dreams?

Has anything changed?

Has anything worsened?

Has anything improved?

What is your hope for 2021?

What is your promise for 2021?

What’s your goal for the future?

Based on your experience of the year 2020 – comment below.

Play The Good Long Game

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Just met one of my close buddies and best friend, and we chanced across talking about a mutual associate whose antics over the previous weeks and months became more and more apparent to be self centered, negative and a little bitter.

Perhaps, something happened to him but looking at the multiple opportunities that we had observed on how he interacts with us, we’ve concluded that maybe we have to just stay away from him for now.

This is the same guy whom I also have shared resources that doesn’t include me gaining anything monetary wise, but when I tried to ask about how to do a certain thing where I can hustle on the side, which he is already doing, he abruptly told me that he’s busy with house moving.

I thought it odd, so I decided to pursue it on my own.

I decided to not interact with him anymore or so much – simply because I’ve finite time and energy, and I don’t want to waste time on such individuals.

19th January 2021 Edited

  1. Removed some paragraphs that is unnecessary
  2. Add: this individual reached out to welcome me to the team that he is in and to show me the ropes etc as well as to clarify that he indeed a tough time in last quarter of 2020 – it was just bad timing. As he had reached out and clarified with me, I have too reciprocated my friendship with him and continue conversations – ideally work towards better relationship too.
  3. Later he read this blog and reached out to me to clarify and I have clarified my perspective to him, apologized for not clarifying with him and writing on personal matters; and would like to clarify more and work anything out over coffee and be even better together – messaged him and called him but no response, maybe too early in the morning (7 am) – I hope and wish to resolve this and move on together.
  4. He responded to my text! Set a time to chat at 11 am to clarify and I wish to resolve and reconcile and move forward together.
  5. Had good voice call with him:

We both apologized to each other for what had happened, and for making/causing directly or indirectly the pains; and both shared about our struggles and pains that we went through. I clarified that the blog was less than 1% about him and even then, it’s not entirely about him, it’s just a snippet of a moment. I also apologized for not reaching out to clarify and to ask if he needed help.

I was touched and anxious and trembling as we both shared and affirmed each other’s feelings, thoughts, struggles and hopes, and ended the conversation to deepen the friendship moving forward. I…am glad that we had the clarity chat just now, painful as it was prior to it, because it seems like our friendship will grow a lot more hereon.

Note to self: need to increase in generosity of my soul, mind and spirit to others (eg checking in and clarifying instead of withdrawing); and not everyone is self-centered like who I experienced earlier in my life.

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False Metrics & Scores

Like many others, many think that by keeping a clean and positive score and track record (and accolades), they have success.

It’s not enough.

Not every metric is important, and especially for some more than the other.

  • What’s the point of winning or gaining the world but losing one’s own soul?
  • What’s the point of winning by throwing others under the bus so that one can proceed?
  • What’s the point of looking good outside metrics but shitty on the inside?

Those are but shallow successes to me.

Yes I am aware we all have our demons and struggles, and I understand. I honor the struggle and the struggle is real.

However, deciding to throw someone under the bus, or lying or cheating “to get ahead” is truly “a rush to the bottom”.

The real question is: What then is the real metrics that truly matters?

Rush To The Bottom

I’ve share this before, on how it’s a shame when people and organizations play the short game.

It’s just a stupid rush to the bottom.

And at the bottom of this bottom, is where the lowest beings and things are, which I don’t want you to go.

It’s where people who have “all they can have in the world, but still feel unhappy, unaccomplished or dissatisfied”. And we all know and have heard of millionaires or billionaires who are like that.

It’s a silly way to live.

That’s why for years I’ve said that the “how money is made” and “how we do things” is infinitely more important that whatever material gains we can ever make.

The truth is that we as humans are happiest when we do good things well, together. As well as sharing and growing together.

Yes, making that 1st $100K is great.

And that $1M is great too.

But frankly, after a while, the next $1M…doesn’t seem as good. The feeling isn’t as awesome. And the next $1M after? I

t becomes a number.

Seriously.

Of course I believe in good success entrepreneurship, and earning hundreds of thousands if not millions will be a normal byproduct of a good business. But not at the cost of good success, good humanity and good works.

The Good Long Game

I believe that:

  • good success, which entails truly delivering good value and serving each other well, even when NOT making money from them
  • alone, I can go fast…but together, we will go far

The short and stupid game of “hey let’s cheat / defraud / kill this person to take his or her belongings” – and then have to do it again and again. I’ve had this done to me countless of times by very shortsighted individuals:

  • who lied and coerced to take assets that I built away and hurt my reputation
  • who lied and scandalized untruths to hurt my reputation
  • who cheated one of my businesses by hundreds of thousands because another person wanted “quick money on the books”

So many more – this is the reason why I am very selected on and of who I work with, because people who play the short stupid game, is actually the slowest in the long run.

Here is a simplified explanation:

You can grow beansprouts very very quickly, but their commercial and nutritional value is very poor. Conversely, to grow apple orchards or durian plantations, it takes years if not at least a decade, but their fruits are very commercial with high nutritional value.

Worse, how many persons can the cheater cheat? Or the liar lie? Or the killer kill?

Not to mention, building based on good values, love, sincerity – these are stuff that will attract more people and individuals who practice good values, love and sincerity, and weed out the negative ones.

Of course, it helps when I am quick to fire toxic individuals because they just are toxic and poison companies and culture.

Sure, maybe 10.

Maybe more – but really, that’s it. Not only do these people do not build assets that can truly grow and outlive their lifetimes, but they also build a life revolving around pain, deceit and negativity….which will only attract and multiply more pain, deceit and negativity.

No matter how they try to whitewash and do PR – the truth will always surface.

Of course, there will always be people and organizations who will try to cheat you…just avoid these like the plague. Do not look at the money or anything they offer you…firstly, it’s dirty money. Secondly, if they can cheat others…they will cheat you too.

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Playing the long and good game seems slow in the beginning, but as it takes traction and speed, it will grow very fast as well. There are so many ways to define “game”, which can be life as a whole, or businesses and investment; but for me, I love to align everything together, because I can’t compartmentalize that way.

I believe in good alignment and integration – it’s impossible for me to be good and Godly and yet invest in businesses or investment that practices shady tactics, evilness etc no matter how much money it can make me. I cannot stay in a company or with an individual who can and will cheat, coerce, manipulate or defraud others, no matter how much they pay me.

I won’t and I can’t.

I will only be involved in businesses and investments that I can look at my children and family, grandparents and God in the eye and say that “this is a good business, and we do good things and add good value to the world, where ethics, integrity and love matters”.

The Real Metrics That Matters

So remember, as you build your lives, businesses, etc – ask yourself,

  • will God, at the end of the day, say, “well done, my good and faithful servant”
  • how would you like to do business?
  • how would you like your legacy to be?
  • how would you like your family and children to be?
  • how would you like your employees and business partners to be?
  • who would you like to be and become?

Do good business and do it right and good, for the long term by pursuing real metrics that truly matters.

Merry Christmas 2020

Merry Christmas 2020!

Wow, 2020 really flew by quicker than I thought (then again, the years fly by so quickly for me nowayears haha).

Happy holidays and have a blessed time!

They Call Me Good Boss

man in black long sleeve shirt sitting by the table

Some of the staff and people whom I have the privilege of leading, teaching, guiding and being with them, call me “good boss”.

And it’s not just once off – it has happened in the previous businesses that I had that had been acquired, and even for this now (and extrapolating it, I believe I will continue my same philosophy and approach to work, business, life and money, which is applying the principles of Good Success).

This isn’t a humble brag post and it will never be, but more of a hmm / feedback post, that why do they call me good?

Is it just about being nice?

No, I don’t think or believe so – I do tell people off when some processes isn’t done right or when something goes wrong.

I believe because I try to focus more on processes (as opposed to blaming people, unless in some cases some people are egomaniacal / implosive drama queens) and equally as important: to control quality and culture tremendously – we have no place or tolerance for toxic people.

And keep being consistently guiding and teaching without judgment, nor dumping unnecessary things on them.

I think, above all, is guiding and leading with love.

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What about you?

I Don’t Mind Being Blocked

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On WhatsApp or social media or anywhere, like where some of our self-misunderstand-things-so-called-“friends” who misunderstand, do not seek the truth and just block us and go around our social circle with scandalous lies and untruths.

Who needs enemies when we have “friends” like this right? Hahaha!

Oh well, I really don’t mind – I’d continue to do the right things and say the right things, even if it’s unpopular or if it’d end up with me being blocked or disliked. I’m not here to be popular, and I urge you to be very careful with “passionate” but one-dimensional, superficial individuals or companies out there.

Even family members aren’t excluded from this.

The truth matters more than popularity or fear of rejection (of course I won’t be rude about it nor tactless, but tough conversations need to be had to ensure that everything is connected and clear), and all my readers need to be extra vigilant, smart and seek the truth in all matters, don’t be easily persuaded by one-sided, one-dimensional and dangerous passionate individuals.

I get it, seeing someone who is burning with passion can be really energizing, and we can get caught up in the moment…but there is such a thing as being sincerely wrong.

Block me if you want, but I will still continue to speak the truth, and assuredly, the truth will come to light. You liars can lie all you want, tell yourself and smoke yourself all you want. The outcomes will be just a few:

  • God knows and we all will need to account to Him when we meet him at the end.
  • People around you will eventually know the truth, and you will have to accept that you lied.
  • If you don’t accept that you lied…and that’s you and no one else…I will continue to pray for your growth and goodness to eventually show up =)

Celebrating Leavers

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This week one of our staff told us that she is thinking of resigning because of aspirational dreams and goals to earn more and do more, and she was a little sad, tearful and uncertain and also excited.

Without stopping, I immediately congratulated her and told her that whenever someone wishes to leave us for something better suited for them, we celebrate it, and we wish her all the best, and that she will always be welcomed back to us (as we are poised to grow for 2021 and beyond too).

But this has been one of the way we do things and our philosophy: never hold anyone back if where they’re going is better and/or more aspirational than where they are now with us.

Why hold people back?

If anything, we wish, want and pray to encourage them to keep leveling up.

And if they change their minds later, and if we have space for them, we will always welcome them back.

Yes, it’s a little more hassle for operations.

Yes, it’s a little sad and inconvenient.

But it’s a big yes to growth and progress, and that is more important.

Do The Work

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There are zero shortcuts to success, fulfillment and joy.

We have to do the work.

Yes, the hard, grinding, hustling and even repetitive monotonous work at times.

Yes sometimes it’s boring.

Yes, there can be some optimized and optimization “hacks” but we need to do the work consistently, refining with feedback and growing and finetuning along the way.

Yes, we have to do the work.

Even then, we “never arrive” – growth is a constant thing.

But we have to do the work to actualize and achieve whatever we dream or visualize. No amount of visualization, affirmation and thinking can materialize the end result in our lap (that’d be great if that can happen lol) – hence the importance of

  • knowing / choosing what are the key few items that truly are important and moves the needle and
  • doing them regularly

Know it isn’t enough.

And neither is doing it once.

We’ve got to do the work, again and again and again.

Get better at it, and do more.

And then keep at it.

Example #1 in love: say we know what makes our loved ones tick. Say it’s a particular activity they enjoy – doing it once with/for them is awesome, and yes novelty is nice, but it’s doing it consistently that makes it wonderful. Apply this to things like kissing, touching, making them feel loved. Once isn’t enough right?

Example #2 in business: say we know what makes our clients tick. Do we do it once and send them away? In some cases, yes, but in most cases, no – we allow and invite them to come back again and again. You can see this across different sectors and industries be it F&B, consulting, dating, affiliate marketing – everything.

Example #3 in investing: if we have been getting good result in investing in a particular project, we will then invest more in the same projects, or invest in similar projects, or invest in similar philosophy and fashion consistently right?

 

 

NigelChua.com Is About Good Growth & Good Success

Finally, I can put a direction and focus in NigelChua.com as Good Growth & Good Success.

I’m in a consistent state of exploring, defining, clarifying and growing, and I think the biggest issue here at NigelChua.com is because it’s pegged to my personal brand and name, which makes me a little fearful and careful on what I want to write because it seems…like a personal statement.

It is, isn’t it?

It’s a vicious cycle and non-productive block which has been holding me back for a long time.

The stuff that I seem to enjoy doing, reading and exploring falls into self help and personal development. Plus the context of “good success” ie good growth and good success, not success at all cost.

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I enjoy entrepreneurship and recommend it for many reasons, including

  • helping me when I was down and in a financial rut, to earning a lot more now and providing me and my family financial security and growth and wealth
  • it helps me grow intensively as a person, business owner, entrepreneur
  • it helps me feel good when I help another person get better, earn more, live/build a better life etc
  • it makes me feel good when I create positive culture, jobs and community

I enjoy passive income and recommend it for the reasons of

  • it makes me feel secure and free and worry-less about money
  • it allows and frees me up to pursue things and projects and people that matter to me

I enjoy reading and pursuing self help (including business) books because

  • it helps me grow my business
  • it helps me grow as a person
  • I am curious

I want to grow more as a person – in all areas of life.

I want to keep helping people too but without sacrificing my life and myself.

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Hmm.

Writing this is a good exercise mentally and emotionally for me, as the process of writing improves my clarity as I write. I now know why I sensed that I don’t want to write or share consistently with details on how to start or grow a business, nor about the details of my passive income pursuits.

So I sense that I’m a functional capitalist, investor and entrepreneur and believe in good success – I do it because it’s good.

  • it’s good to create jobs for others
  • it’s good to create returns for our investors and stakeholders
  • it’s good to create passive income streams for myself and my family
  • it’s good to embrace good success because it creates sustainable growth in individuals, families, businesses and society as a whole

…and as I sensed before but didn’t put the time to think and ponder over it, but again, money isn’t everything. I believe that individuals and organizations that set themselves to making money only and first above all will eventually kill itself and burnout, because it lacks good purpose. That’s why so many entrepreneurs who set out to just make money will fail if they fail to see and serve the purpose.

I am not plain naive – I know the benefits of making money and profits. All my businesses are profitable – but I do not place profits above good success. If you don’t need something, I will not recommend or sell it to you just to profit off you – that doesn’t make sense. My approach is if I have selected you as a client and you have selected me to take care of you, I will endeavor to profitably serve you in a mutually beneficial relationship.

We have referred so many clients away and out of our business when we know that we cannot serve them well.

But when we can serve them well?

We’ll serve 100% to the best of our capabilities.

Of course, clients who are not good fit will also be sent away.

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Look, I don’t need $100M.

I don’t mind earning $100M hahaha, but I know that I don’t need that much.

At this moment in this season, I am comfortable to say that I can build an 8-figure business over the next 5-10 years or lesser. Maybe much faster because I am getting wiser, smarter and growing as a person and business owner. Perhaps more, as I continue to grow.

I earn and serve and grow because I CAN and I WANT TO.

I choose good and instill good values in my actions and decisions because I CAN and I WANT to.

I lead in family, relationships and business in love and goodness because I CAN and I WANT to.

Likewise, I walk away from fraudulent, shady and dramatic individuals and organizations because I don’t want to waste my time nor life. If these are people who are close to me, I will coach and guide and counsel them to pick the good path to achieve their goals.

Because life, to me, is sacred – so I cannot waste time on things that don’t matter.

Of course, we all need to eat, have roof over our heads, and since I can earn, I will earn as much as I can in a good way that is acceptable to my God and to me; as well as grow to the maximum of my capacity and capability, which will also grow in time and experience.

Come, let’s grow together.

 

To Good Growth & Good Success

 

Nigel

Renewed Focus NigelChua.com

I’ve been writing much more here at NigelChua.com and as I write and think and publish, I am becoming increasingly clear and convinced that I will be focusing on less things in life, but things that have more meaning and impact.

This season 2021 and forward I will be focusing on

  • Phoenix Rehab and Group of Companies
  • NigelChua.com
  • And a few of my core projects

I cannot be all over the place anymore, and more importantly, I will be diving deeper and anchoring into the fewer but more important people, projects and investments in my life.

NigelChua.com will cover a few main things:

Entrepreneurship To Diversify Your Income and Amplify Your Earning Power

This is important and integral part of building financial and time freedom. Without good income, it’s hard to focus on what else that can be important.

Create new income streams first to stop living paycheck to paycheck and to start to take back control of your financial future by either

Then, with more income, you have more options and even flexibility:

Build A Life And Business You Love With More Flexibility And Options

  • You can choose to ditch your 9-5 (aka fire your boss, leave your old cubicle life and work you dislike behind) to work full time on your business or
  • You can choose to continue working full time and continue your side hustle on the side, choosing to
    • reinvest the profits into the side hustle
    • invest into stable hard assets that pay you dividends as well as
    • afford luxuries you love such as hiring a personal trainer, chef, go on holidays, buy that car / property / watch whatever

for the purpose and goal of achieving

Freedom, Good Success, Early Retirement, Serendipity & More

More importantly, take more time to focus on things that are truly important, this I write under Good Success, which covers areas like health, relationships, spirituality, giving back, freedom etc.

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It seems that these three (3) topics are the common general topics I talk about, so I’m gonna list them out and write them first, and keep at it and see how it goes.

Talk soon!

What’s Your Priority & Focus For 2021?

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We’re nearing the end of the crazy crazy year of 2020, the year where COVID19 really disrupted the entire world’s operations:

  • trade decreased significantly
  • flights decreased significantly
  • work-from-home became the new norm
  • words like isolations, stay home notice, quarantine, safe distancing, mask wearing and safe distancing were buzzwords

All in all, a crazy year.

Oh but what a time it has been – it’s a very good wake up call as well to many of us who had been taking life, routines and things for granted – we were definitely “jarred and shaken up” by COVID19.

So now it’s 28th November 2020, and end of 2020 is just in about 33 days time – what is your priority and focus for 2021?

What will you do this coming new year?

What will you be focusing on?

Will you be improving what you already have and do?

Will you stay the same?

Remember, exactly one year ago in 2019, what was your plan for 2020? Have you achieved what you set out to do? If yes, good.

If not, what happened? Did 2020 happened and COVID smacked all the plans out of whack?

How will things differ next year in 2021? Maybe COVID vaccine will be out by then, or will it not? What will change?

Will you choose to…

  • love more next year?
  • read more next year?
  • exercise more next year?
  • lose a little weight next year?
  • start a side income hustle online next year? (if you do, consider going to my PassiveIncomeEntrepreneurship.com site where I help individuals like you build a $500-$1K+ per month side income from affiliate marketing)

Whatever it is, write it down, and put it at a place you can see it every day. Put it as your computer background, or printed and stuck to your bathroom mirror – wherever you can see it.

And just do the work – I assure as long as you put effort in consistently, you will get to where and who you want to be.