The Courage To Restart And Keep Following God

I left a fairly stable and ?successful business and brand some years back, and it took me a few years for me to

  1. mull over / consider and pray through thoroughly before deciding firmly to leave
  2. following God’s will and direction for me in the new phase of my life where I am remaking and renewing myself
  3. personally go through every facet of the new adventure and journey (ongoing process)
  4. emerging happier and victorious (smallish victories for now)

persons right foot on white wall

Yes, this is a mini-victory post.

Yes, I decided to leave a fairly financially comfortable place and created brand / business behind, and after experiencing life and business years post the entire reset and restart process, upon looking back – it has become very clear to me that it is still the right and good decision to make.

One that I’m confident and happy to say that I will do it again in a heartbeat. No regrets.

Of course, the adventure and journey has its fair share of ups and down, doubts, fear…and at the same time, it was one of the best seasons of my life, be it:

The Highs

  • spending time diving into the written Word of God (bible) and finding deep truths and revelations about love, humanity, redemption, restoration
  • experiencing the closest authentic spiritual ginosko love and experience of Holy Spirit encouraging and leading me through one of the darkest seasons of my life
  • finding out True Allies who loves me and my family, and truly wants to support us and not coddle us and tell us half truths, but the entire truth
  • how much I standby truth, love, courage, good, integrity and these are things that I cannot compromise
  • no longer have to deal with organizations and/or individuals who are just seasonal / lie for convenience and self benefits / who can spew lies and create own narratives and story for self gain and corruption…and conversely, I get to serve a great team and my wife who loves me and whom I love, with awesome positive culture
  • I no longer have to serve drama kings and queens who can lie and spin tales and their own narratives at the drop of a hat with a straight face, and neither do I have to sit through hours of mud-slinging/self-promotional charade and drama
  • the joy of staying true to Christ no matter how inconvenient / painful it is, and realizing that it is Him who sent me on a new mission in the next phase of my life (this is after years after the hard reset)
  • finding how much I actually still love humans and marvel at God’s creation and redemptive plan for us through His Son Jesus
  • experimenting with publishing (with more to come)
  • fatherhood and spending sabbatical time with beloved children
  • finding out how much I still love serving and more importantly, being and doing business in the market place with Godly love, patience and truth, without having to deal or make deals / compromises with individuals whose values starkly contrast Godly / biblical teachings

photo of three men jumping on ground near bare trees during daytime

I shall not write of what had happened to the antagonists and perpetrators, for even though some of them had met some of God’s vengeance, I do not wish to pay attention to that because vengeance is ultimately the Lord’s (Deuteronomy 32:35)

35 Vengeance is Mine, and recompense;
Their foot shall slip in due time;
For the day of their calamity is at hand,
And the things to come hasten upon them.’

As well as Proverbs 24:17-18, which says:

17 Do not gloat when your enemy falls, and do not let your heart rejoice when he stumbles,
18 or the LORD will see and disapprove, and turn His wrath away from him

Plus I recall that Jesus in John 21:18-22 specifically said:

If it is my will that he remain until I come, what is that to you? You follow me!

People can keep sharing “their” narrative and their version of the story, and the truth may never surface in this lifetime, and that’s perfectly alright with me, because I know that

  • the truth will come out no matter what, when we all face the Lord at the end of our lives
  • God will deal with the liars / cheaters / untruths / etc
  • I’ve more important things to do anyway

Hence the logical conclusion is to just follow the Lord, and wherever He leads me. God has never shortchanged me before, and He never will (though sometimes it’s scary).

The bible says that “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11).

I (Nigel) shall continue to pray for and bless those who cursed me, who had planned, conspired, lied and acted against me, as well as those who allowed that to happen, and may they find love and redemption and hope in Christ Jesus.

Which even if it challenging at times, but praying for them allows more of the love of God to come into my heart and mind and soul, and makes it even easier to pray for them =)

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…or The Lows

I “only” have three (3) broad lows:

  1. realizing who people who are just seasonal / lie for convenience and self benefits / downright evil and corrupted and my naivety and how much disdain I have for these practices
  2. how many people “look down or look away”, working for individuals and organizations that have questionable ethics and practices
    • just because they think it’s normal / okay
    • because “the money is good” and nowhere else pays as well / bad time to exit
    • or that they need to put food on the table
  3. Realizing how much people (myself included) need Christ

Happier Than Ever.

I’m trying to put to word how happy, in a deep sense of the word, I am today. And this deep joy seems to be increasing deeply and meaningfully as the days and time goes by.

It’s not just because everything is sunshine, butterflies and roses – there are still struggles and challenges.

Maybe it’s the long list of “Highs” as written above.

man jumping on the middle of the street during daytime

Of course, I still do face challenges and difficulties and pain (who doesn’t?), and the usual struggles and issues, but (and it’s a BIIIIIIIG but!)  I am free to love and do the right and good things, the right and Godly way – it is so endearing, so enriching, so good.

Perhaps because I am thriving because I am aligned within where and what God wants me to do, and I feel and know that He is with me stronger than ever before.

Perhaps this is MY understanding of what I perceive, aim and want “Good Success” to be.

This is so good.

Good Hope For The Future

As I end this article, I will say that I have good hope for the future, that I am inline and aligned with where and what God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit is leading me (kairos alignment 2020), and I will continue heading in the direction and destination where They want me to go, with good expectation that they will lead me to good, green pastures.

  • Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.
  • Surely what I had “lost” I count as “gain” and I shall be restored multiple-fold returns in God-terms.

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I know that I know that I know, that God, being a good Father, has good plans in store for me (and you), and I will keep moving forward towards God and His plans for me (and of course, for you too).

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What I Decided Then, Still Stands After Years And Counting

I was clearing out some documents, and I chanced across some old documents, some normal, some legal, and I was looking at the details in there and I burst out laughing – we had dealt with so much lies, falsehoods, allegations, and childish insults…and my decision then still stands today, years later and still counting.

And these are the kind of decisions that are important – the decisions that are good that withstand the test of time, that are much more important than just “winning at all costs including blackhat practices” and short term esthetics.

As I mull, think and share in “Good Success“, who we become is way more important than what we can ever get in the short or long term. That’s why I will never align with individuals or organizations who can lie, manipulate, cheat and all sorts of shenanigans rather than actually working and doing good work.

I smile to myself as I recall all the big promises and money and whatever I can get if I stayed / went with their wish for me ala dancing to their music, but alas! Who would have seen what would happen?

It was a tough and unpopular decision…but it is the right one nonetheless – I will do it again in a heartbeat. No matter how unpopular or tough a decision is, as long as it is good, right and in alignment with God, I will follow. And I am at least 100X happier already today, without even referring to the increase in health, happiness, business opportunities and more.

I have been praying, meditating and seeking the Lord, and I am more and more confident and certain, with time and experience and prayer, that we in His direction, alignment and path for us. Whatever was wrongfully taken from us, I am at peace that God will return us a 100-fold…and those who conspired to plunder, will be plundered in turn.

Yet, as I say this, I pray for God to forgive us all our shortcomings, to have mercy upon all of us, and to keep guiding all of us to the next level (all of us includes those who have sinned against us, and of course, us).

Killing Off NalcoLeads

I picked up a skill recently, called lead generation, and I was intrigued because I know I can (and do) apply it to Phoenix Rehab (which I started to apply more of what I had learnt), but we were advised to become an agency and target hungry business owners from all over the world who are hungry for leads.

I know for myself, as an industrious and hungry business owner and leader, I am, and still till today, I am willing to pay for good leads and business to flow my way, especially to Phoenix.

That being said, because I was parachuted and invited in to help out at Phoenix Rehab already, which itself is a platform for orthopedic and sports group physiotherapy and hand therapy agency, over time, I realized that Phoenix itself already is an agency which has complex and multiple relationships to manage, such as

  1. External vendors
  2. External referrers
  3. Internal clients
  4. Internal clinicians
  5. Internal front desk
  6. Internal other stakeholders

And this itself is already complex for me, and I don’t think I want to deal with, start or manage another complex agency work that involves multi-client sales and management, though there will always be hungry business owners who will pay for leads.

I have tested the offline lead-generation agency business model and I was paid $300 for a single glass job, and it is actually very similar to affiliate marketing (just that affiliate marketing is lead generation for online purchases, as opposed to B2B lead generation which is to generate leads for local businesses).

For the me today in August 2020, I am not keen for it due to having to deal with more variables and humans eg

  • finding hungry business owners who want my leads, firing not-good-fit ones and managing them
  • following up with these business owners who may not want to pay me or have forgotten to attribute it to me
  • following up with the leads
  • etc

Of course, I may change my idea for this over time.

And of course, I will apply all the lead-generation skills and knowledge that I have gained to my existing businesses and the businesses that I take care of – herein, it’s not that I’m killing off NalcoLeads as a whole, but moreso absorbing into my portfolio skills and services used mainly for internal/self-owned/self-managed businesses where the variables are much easier to apply and the incomes will be easier to track and paid for (more straightforward and easy).

So basically for NalcoLeads I’m not gonna serve external clients any longer, save for a very select few.

But what I am looking for, for my Passive Income Lifestyle, needs to be more simple and passive, which leans towards tech-powered online businesses such as NigelChua.com and my other publishing ventures where I can keep publishing content, and when readers and clients like my work or like what I recommend and use in my resources page that will help improve their life, I get an affiliate commission at no extra cost to them – and deliver good value!

Goodbye NalcoLeads =)

Sincerity And Rawness Isn’t A Measure Of Truth

Sincerely Wrong

Sincerity and rawness by itself isn’t, cannot and will never be a measure of truth. Just because one person feels a certain way and expresses sincerity and rawness in a certain way, it doesn’t mean it’s the truth.

Even if a person misunderstands a Situation G entirely, but because he/she cries in distress that the situation is A when in fact the situation is G, doesn’t mean that the situation is A.

One can be sincerely wrong.

Lipstick On A Pig

And oftentimes in the fast-paced and superficial world of instant gratification, instant replies, instant everything, where a bunch of people can just quickly and irresponsibly tweet or snap something quickly for SnapC or InstaG, to change history and just put their own narrative on in, that’s either

  • severely low in ability to research and find out the truth and/or
  • blatantly lying for drama and self-importance

Funnily enough, there are many who loves the lipstick, and miss the pig entirely. This means that either the lipstick is really good, or that people want to believe what they want to believe.

Well, good for them I suppose, for these sort of people.

A Pig Is A Pig Is A Pig

For me (and many of us I believe), even if someone puts lipstick on a pig, I may be more entertained by it, but really – a pig is a pig is a pig. If a whole pig costs $499, putting a lipstick on it and trying to sell me the same pig for $5000 isn’t gonna cut it sweetie. Maybe I’ll give you a dollar for trying or being funny, but the value of the pig remains the same.

Don’t be a sucker that wants to believe what others want to believe, like when I was told how a certain individual is still telling the same old lies on their internal talk, social media and in person – go find out the truth, and the truth will set you free.

Remember, sincerity isn’t a measure of truth – one can be sincerely wrong.

An Inkling, Teaser, Uncertainty Of The Path I’m Taking Here In NigelChua.com

I’ve been thinking about why it’s been so hard for me to “choose” a niche here at NigelChua.com, like

Why does it seem so difficult?

I’ve been struggling with it the last 10 years or so, and I think I’m getting an inkling, a teaser of why it’s like that, and it seems that it’s because NigelChua.com isn’t “just” another brand or business to me with a particular niche that I can zoom in on.

You know, like the brands and businesses that I’m working in/with, such as

  • Phoenix Rehab which is a specialist orthopedic and sports physiotherapy and hand therapy provider in Singapore.
  • Wisdom Of Proverbs which is a site dedicated to my interest and passion for the Book of Proverbs of the Bible.
  • My other niche sites and businesses

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NigelChua.com Combines Personal Growth, Journaling, Teaching & More

The real reason for this is because NigelChua.com to me, is sort of like a journal, where I write about my good success habits, mindsets, psychology, focus, adventures and more. The ups and downs of life. The musings, the realizations, the bitter and the sweet – it’s truly a journal that grows with me as I adventure and grow through life, with a slant towards God, goodness, positivity and along that line.

Because of that, I think and feel that it’s very hard to “streamline” and categorize a standardized focus here in NigelChua.com (or maybe I’m just inexperienced), but I won’t let this stop me…of course not.

Since NigelChua.com is part of me, grows with me – this allows me to write as I grow, and right now, offhand, I’ve listed all the categories that I’m interested in, which revolves around a few themes and frameworks

  1. God and all His works, blessings, plans, hopes, salvation
  2. Goodness from God and all of Him
  3. Good Success Habits, Mindsets, Psychology
    • including The Passive Income Lifestyle and my pursuit of passive income machines and businesses
  4. Good Success Adventures (where I apply the three above to life, business and personal experiences)

Thereabouts.

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Godly Good Success Only

The first 3 are the important things that I hold on to and look forward to, because I believe, not all success are made equal.

  1. There are good success (where one or more aims to do good and succeed in a good manner)
  2. there are bad success (where one or more aims to succeed at whatever cost possible, and blackhat practices such as lying, fraud, manipulation etc no rules)
  3. good Godly success (where we do #1 but with focus and guidance from biblical principles and Godly wisdom and blessing)

and I am aiming to be aligned and as close to good Godly success as possible. No compromise or no blackhat methods, which I’ve experienced personally and even corporately where

  • people can lie to get what they want
  • people can cheat to get what you have
  • and more

That isn’t my way of life, and it will never be. I do not align with such individuals, organizations who does these practices or thinking, and if you find yourself in such organizations of people, I do recommend you leave them…because it may not affect you yet, but I assure you it’s just a matter of time.

Remember, you are the average of 5 people you hang out most with, actively or passively.

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The Passive Income Lifestyle

is a very important aspect of life, as I mentioned previously that passive income is an utmost necessity not just to survive, but to also level up to the next level. It is very hard to focus on living the best versions of our selves, or to do the best work in the world, or to live our lives for Christ when we are barely surviving and have to live paycheck-to-paycheck.

This is the reason why I still focus on passive income and passive income machines till today. This hadn’t changed, since 2005.

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Come, Observe, Learn and Grow With Me

I dont take the stance of a guru, and I dont think I will. Sometimes, it’s just that I’ve learnt a little more than you. Sometimes I’ve learnt a lot more lessons along the way. Sometimes you have learnt more than me (and for this reason, I do not disable comments, because I too want to hear from you).

Here in NigelChua.com, I will keep adventuring a very specific way of growing ala Godly Good Success and will do my best to keep writing all these thoughts, experiences and lessons / wisdoms.

I invite you to observe, learn and grow with me.