Happy 38th Birthday To Me

Another year has gone by, so quickly too. Just this date, exactly one year ago, I officially ended my 18-month sabbatical to join my wife’s physiotherapy and hand therapy company, Phoenix Rehab, and it’s already one year after – so fast!

I do really miss my sabbatical, where I had so much time to spend catching up with my children, Olivia and David, just to spend time with them, fathering and being with them, just taking them to school and back. I had good amount of time spent meditating, reading the bible, exploring other forms of non-therapy businesses too, such as Kindle publishing and affiliate marketing.

Yes of course, I had some challenges of having to deal some rather annoying spoilt individuals and companies along the way during that time, but I can safely say good riddance – even after months and years later, I have no regrets and have perfect peace that the path that I took is still the right path for me.

So this year in 2020, I am 38 years old. Just a little older and perhaps a little wiser too. I learnt a lot about humans’ selfishness, greed and unfaithfulness…but I’ve also learnt about human’s faithfulness, love and selflessness. As well as continued to be awed by God’s awesome love for us, even till today.

I learnt more about myself and my relentless pursuit of

  • God
  • finding out what God has in store for me
  • staying true to God’s teachings and writings in the bible
  • truth as in the full truth, not just a single linear self perception
  • that I still love humans and try to find reasons to forgive and soften my perception of deceptive, corrupted and evil-practicing humans
  • doing/being/be right, good, loving and sincere as a human, son, Christian, husband/lover, father, friend, boss/entrepreneur and in all that I do

I learnt that even if others choose wrong and evil and corrupt practices to suit their own convenience, I cannot do so, because that’s just not my value. I will not and I cannot do the same, even if it causes more “inconveniences and pain” for choosing to do the right things the right way. And I am 100% alright with it.

Whoever you are who had done wrong towards me and my loved ones, be it by cheating, defrauding, manipulating, coercing, lying and whatnot to get what you want and your attempts to rewrite history to make your version of story and not the entire truth – I forgive you, and I release full forgiveness to you, and I pray for God’s blessing for you in all you do. Be blessed in all you do…and sin no more. Seek and find God, do good and make a good change and contribution to the world moving forward..

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This year and moving forward, I’ve been sensing an interesting kairos sensation, in my spirit, soul and mind, that this year, or this era, is going to turn positive for me and my loved ones. That I’m confirmed in the right place, chose the right actions and deciding on the right direction to go towards, and this era is the start of a turnaround, an uptick, where God’s favor, blessings and presence will increase more and more.

I am excited, hopeful and expectant, to see a mightier move of God in my and our lives.

My 38th birthday wish?

From a spiritual, mental and emotional standpoint, and for those, I’ll want to continue staying in God’s presence and God’s course and adventure for me…for as long as He is with me, that’s more than enough – everything else will fall into place as long as His presence is with me.

Other Goals

  1. Physical: become fitter and stronger physically, and gain more health to a fighting weight of 70 KG
  2. Spiritual: spend more time meditating and reading on God’s word, praying and seeking His presence daily
  3. Relationship: become even closer with my wife, children, family, friends, colleagues
  4. Parenting:
    • become an awesomer father, and have more kids!
    • started teaching my kids about life, death, God, compound interest and investing, entrepreneurship
    • be there more often for my children
  5. Business
    • Phoenix to continue growing in brand, new referral sources, new referrals and more senior physiotherapists and hand therapists, I will take a more consultatory, management and leadership role to continue growing Phoenix group of clinics in Singapore
    • Kindle business to grow in brands and books with more and more monthly recurring monthly revenues starting at SGD 1K > SGD 2K > SGD 3K > SGD 5K > SGD 10K and more
    • NalcoLeads to grow more leads and clients to monthly recurring revenue to be SGD 1K > SGD 2K > SGD 3K > SGD 5K > SGD 10K and more
  6. Financial: amass more SGD to invest in dividend paying stocks, in 5 milestones – SGD 1M > SGD 2M > SGD 5M > SGD 10M > SGD 100M

I’ve been spending time to think of my life and my direction as well, and NigelChua.com will ultimately become a good success, growth, freedom, independence, leadership training resource (and whatever falls/grows organically from there), under the umbrella management company of NALCO GROUP under NALCO Publishing, which is the company owned by myself and my wife – this brings clarity to NigelChua.com and let’s see how that goes from there.

My writing here likely will cut down on images and to use more texts and words, because despite pictures helps to “cut” bodies of text, I want readers and truly people who can pay attention to growth and discussions.

Thank you for growing with me, being with me and seeing through ups and downs together with me – I appreciate you, my readers. Please reach out anytime to me and I’ll try my best to connect and answer you.

True Allies Versus Fair-Weathered Friends

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True Allies are people who will not only be with you, but also guide you to the right path, even if it puts the relationship at risk of souring or dissipating, because they are more interested in you, growth, truth and courage. Even when one has done wrong or when others wrong them.

Fair-Weathered Friends are like the name implies – they’re fair to you when the weather is fair, nice to you when the weather is nice, and bad to you when the weather is bad. This weather typically points to people being nice to you when you have money, influence, power, looks etc, basically they want something that you have, or people who will quickly run away from you when something bad happens to you.

I realized my True Allies recently, and who the fair-weathered ones are and their characteristics, and I am so glad to find out early in the game of life.

Thank you for clarity, it’s liberating =)

Kairos Alignment 2020

I realized over the years, as I slow down to be more mindful of God and spiritual matters, of my own habits, thoughts and values, and values, actions and decisions of others – I am a weirdo.

I realized that I’m a God-loving/fearing kinda old school person, where I prioritize and make decisions that are closest to

  1. God/Godly/biblical
  2. good and right and ethical and legal
  3. good for my family, self, loved ones, colleagues, employees

in that order.

And that’s what guides me in my decisions to leave convenient and higher paying work / organizations / individuals / relationships whose values don’t match with those 3 mentioned priorities.

To extrapolate and expand is that I will not want a relationship, be it personal, workwise to anything, anyone or any organization whose practices go against God/bible, illegal, wrong, unethical….even if it may provide more money and convenience for myself or my family or loved ones or employees.

What is wrong / illegal, is wrong / illegal.

Someone I know told me, “what’s wrong and illegal differs depending on which side you stand in” ie people in power can do wrong and it can be looked over, smoothed over, smudged over and the truth may be buried by people with more money and power.

Whilst this is true and common practice in the world today, which I acknowledge, I don’t agree with it and therefore I won’t be part of it simply because “everyone does it” – that doesn’t make sense.

And another truth of the world is, as what I had seen and experienced, multiple times, people will be willing and able to “unsee or ignore” evil to be comfortable. Be it to earn the same amount of money or more than before, or to be able to hang out with the same familiar and comfortable group of people.

Yes, people have needs – food needs to be put on the table, bills need to be paid and the like.

I get it.

That being said, my value and need is more contingent on being true to

  1. God’s prompting and direction for me
  2. staying true to God’s prompting and words and
  3. not doing or being part of any organization or individual who find it OK to be / do illegal, unethical, wrong and bad stuff

And even though I walk away from a comfortable amount of money and lifestyle, I find it perfectly OK, and what’s more, I feel complete at peace and in alignment with God, and I’ve been feeling His presence so much more than before, and today, 2nd June 2020 – I feel a perfect peace, a kairos moment, where I feel that

This, right here, right now, is the right place to be, with the right persons, and in the right direction.

All those struggles during the 18 months of sabbatical to figure out what I want to do next, and where I want to go next, and who I am – it’s clicking into place, most of them at least – and moreso, another thing to consider and realize: all those promises that was given by individuals and organizations, all turned out to be naught and empty retractable promises and words.

More importantly:

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God has never let me down, in fact, He has brought me to heights and places and people whom I’m grateful to meet and go, and I am certain that He has so much more in store for me (and you).

Right here, right now, is rightly where I’m supposed to be.

Do what you need to survive, and when you’re ready and able to, level up: choose to be conscious, to participate in activities and work that add good to the world, and do not support evil / bad individuals and organizations. Even if “everyone is doing it” or even if it’s inconvenient.

Do not tolerate nor serve evil, for evil just begets more evil.

PS: The side bonus on top of that is that I am also free, free from nonsense dramatic lying / bitching / moaning / blackmails / emotional manipulation with individuals and organizations that are just not goodfit with my values and not worth my time.

Edit: Added this portion

1) I believe and think that most humans react and are strongly influenced by social cues and triggers, such as following and modelling others ala “if so-so / statistics are doing it, it must or should be OK to do so” – yes and no.

A group of people doing the wrong thing, such as police brutality or ignoring safe distancing in light of COVID or group bullying…is still wrong, no matter how popular or how many people do it. What is wrong is wrong even with a group doing it.

If it’s done to effect and affect good, such as

  • every human planting a tree a day
  • every human cut down meat consumption by 10 – 100%
  • every human saving more and investing into index funds
  • every human doing a random act of kindness and generosity
  • etc

…that makes the world a better place.

So, guard your heart and mind – be mindful, thoughtful and think / do more good, not just people others are doing it, but because it’s good in the first place; and resist stupid / evil / wrong social cues – a bunch of people doing wrong / bad stuff doesn’t make things right.

Do not look to newspapers or the mass for guidance.

Do not be an empty echo chamber.

It can be tough to be contrarion and to contradict the mass and convenience, but I will hold onto God, good, positive, right and ethical approach no matter how tough it is, and I hope and wish the same thing for you as well – what is good, is good nonetheless.

And God is always good..

2) I thank God for guiding me and my wife to be frugal and to quickly pay down our HDB flat in less than 10 years.

I am aware that we are blessed and the combination of low expenses (no kids then and not much spending habits) allowed us to quickly pay down the single largest payment that we had. We don’t own a car even till today (still no need even with 2 kids at least not yet) and this is one of the supporting reasons why we could also have the flexibility of choosing where and who we want to work with.

I believe if I was highly leveraged or have lots of debts and commitments, that would make me think more of working longer “just to put food on the table and to pay the bills and be comfortable” even if I had to work with individuals and organization whose values differ from mine, just for a while, but for mid to long term, I would switch out for relationships with individuals and organizations are both GodFit and GoodFit with me.